You know what, I got to admit that many women are blind as well. That does not mean they are stupid. It's just they are very optimistic and believe that there may be a reason if someone is not willing to put their photo online. (they guess they may look not bad....or at least not too bad) They feel the "white fake akimbo man on match.com"'s diary is somehow interesting, so they leave a message. Someday, a woman has a chance, she sees his photo. She says nothing and thinks (now i know the reason...). And then after they talk, she finally wanna admit that "diaries can lie...diaries make me blind..."