Yesterday, a friend call me about his problem. He is 35 yo, the girlfriend is 21 yo. They pak tor for 1 year. One day, he went to gf house to pick her up for a date, but she was late, showering in her bathroom, so he had to wait at the living room with her father sitting there reading the papers. He knew the father very hostile to him, never acknowledge him when he say "hello uncle". So they both sat at the living room while his gf upstairs showering and prob doing make up. then silence was broken, when the father suddenly put down paper and ask him.
Father: So what is your profession?
Guy: I work in procurement
Father: Sound like no future kind of job, got chance to promotion?
Guy: I have good relationship with my boss, he will one day promote me when he go up the corporate ladder.
Father: Hmm, how old are you?
Guy: Err, I am 35 this year.
Father: wah so old? You are 14 years older than her? I am only 46 years old, you almost like my peer.
Guy: Err, i guess i older wiser
Father: Why you until 35 cannot find someone your age meh?
Guy: Err, i happen to meet your daughter and we both like each other, i guess its fate, uncle
Father: Actually ah, i very uncomfortable how you both met, through this tinder. I just afraid you some sort of con man or worse, predator
Guy: You seen so far, I been very good, I gone out with your daughter for 1 year, uncle. She is very happy with me.
Father: Good? I set the curfew time at 10pm..you always late, take her back at 1030pm
Guy: Sorry uncle, sometimes traffic jam and stuff like that delay us
Father: How you going to support my daughter, you seem no financial plan
Guy: I have, I bought a house at XXXXXX...I been saving for marriage
Father: You 35, still drive proton wira. I don t see any financial security. Tell me, when you intend to marry? if you do marry
Guy: I plan to marry her in 2 years, i am still saving money and working hard for the future
Father: wah, by then you 37, then marry get kids at 39..then when you retire, your 1st born child still like 20 year old..who is going to support him to univeristy? when you retire at 60? You expect my daughter to work through to support your kids? You very pandai ah
Guy: I will plan something, maybe go into real estate or ask to work for contract
Father: hah, you very unstable lah. Are you sure you 35? I see you losing hair, you not handsome also..i dunno why my daughter likes you.
Guy: Err, uncle, I am trying very hard to be nice to you, but i hope we can be in good relationship
Father: I have no problem with you, only one, you going out wiht my daughter, i expect the best for her, so far, i look at your background and way you meet her, I not convince. There are so many ladies out there your age, why you have to choose my daughter? She still young, let her enjoy her freedom.
Guy: Uncle, i trying to be as respectful as i can, all i can say is, we both love each otehr very much, and will try to do the best we can to develop our relationship. i just ask uncle to be patient with us.
Father: Unless you strike lottery 10 mil, then maybe i be patient..then also i look at you, you don;t seem like honest person. Where you live? You still live with your parents?
Guy: I live at XXX...yes i still live wiht my parents
Father: What kind of 35 yo still live with his parents? You cannot wash your own clothes and cook your own food is it? You expect my daughter to do all the housework for you?
Guy: No lah uncle, please understand, my parents are old, i want to be
filial, i want to take care of them, i scared if my father whose legs are frail..he fall down, at least i at home
Father: HOw old is your father? ok this one i understand, you need ot be filial son but if my daughter stay with you at your parents house then she have to take care of your parents too? Yes i ok for her to cook and do house work but I not ok, for her to support 3 peopld in the house
Guy: Don t worry uncle, I will work something out, i already bought a house near my parents house. I plan to live out.
Father: That area XXX...hmm, the house also very small in this kidn of place.
Guy: Uncle I not very rich, but i believe wiht hard work i can support her.
Father: Means she has to suffer with you lah. Haiyo, please lah, go after someone your own age lah. Then that lady already have her own career, at 35 she can share the burden with you. But my daughter just came out to start work, how she going to develop her carerr and support you lah?
Guy: I dont expect her to work hard, someway we will work things out..my parents are not rich, they came from poor family but somehow they managed to raise me
Then the daughter finish her make up and dress up..came down stairs..the conversation stopped abruptly, her father look back at his newspaper, ignored her bf..never even look at him in the eye, when he say bye uncle. They left.. |
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