I borrowed a primer book for oil painting from library. The author is Japanese. He described the process of every work. So I can feel his emotion from the work. Yes, the process is the key point. You have to realize the context of the author. Even, playing the music, you should make friend with the composer. Sometimes, they are sophisticated to be understood. Making new friends also will encounter the whole new challenges. Everyone defines the relationship with different backgrounds.
Somebody can not bear to wait someone who is not on time. Somebody can not bear to see someone who is not honest. Somebody can not bear to accept someone who has a glib tongue. Anyway, everyone has his surrounding to raise his personality. If you like his characters, you can know him, otherwise, just forget it. It seems like to read a new book, if you can not catch the point, throw it out. Someone likes Beethoven, Mozart, etc... It is not necessary for you to force yourself to make friends with whom you do not like.