How to Let Resentments Go

Holding grudges is a heavy load to carry and takes a toll. Free yourself of resentments with these tips.

Step 1: Confront the addiction

Confront the fact that resentments stem from an addictive state of mind. Being a victim excuses you from doing something about a problem. Be honest about your reasons for holding on to negative feelings.

Step 2: Allow empathy

Allow yourself to focus on positive things in your life. Forgive others to make peace for yourself, and ultimately understand and have empathy for the one who hurt you.

Release yourself to achieve a greater spiritual well-being, to say nothing of lowering blood pressure.

Step 3: Ask for forgiveness

Be honest about your part in the resentment — shoulder the blame for the wrongs you've committed and express sincere sorrow or regret. Ask for forgiveness, without excuses.

Step 4: Give up control

Give up trying to control outcomes and people. Acknowledge that your resentments only give you an illusion of strength and superiority. Let go, go along to get along, and be happier.

Step 5: Learn to identify signals

Learn to identify the signals that trigger your resentments. Trust friends for help in recognizing your habits of looking for trouble where there is none.

Step 6: Challenge your ego

Challenge your ego. If you're sure you know what everyone else is feeling but have no idea what's going on inside you except that you feel unappreciated, it's time to examine why you feel like everyone's an enemy.